Yesterday a fellow blogger posted a poem about “Failure” (you have to go check him out, he writes amazing stuff!!), I commented on it and he opened my eyes.
Since todays task is taking one word and writing about it, I decided to take the word “Failure”.
Failure. What is failure? Before yesterday, I´d have said that failure is when you fail at reaching your goal, when you fail a test or when you give up, because you think you can’t do it. For me it was that if you fail/fall and choose to get up again, you have a motivation to do better and to go farther than any other person. Maybe you´d be mad and give it your everything. Maybe you just wanted to show everyone, most of all yourself, that you can do it.
But then after reading this poem, I realized that failure exists only in the mind and as dear AstonKamunde said: “it´s not real.”
How true is that! How wrong was I!
If you think about it, it becomes very clear. Let´s take an example and make it fit one of my blogs topics: Fitness.
Let´s say you were training for a competition. A dance competition. Your rehearsals were always brilliant, you´re so ready to get out there and show everyone how well you can do your dance. You want to hear the crowd gasp as you nail your back flip. You didn´t want to hear the crowd gasp as you fail your back flip. How embarrassing. Just as you get ready to do your backflip you see your ex in the audience. You get a short shock as you fly through the air and an even bigger one as you don´t land on both feet, but on one. You slip and fall. As a short time later you find yourself dressed in a white gown in the hospital, you feel the pulsing pain in your left leg. Shit, how bad you failed.
No. You didn´t fail. You just messed up that one back flip. The rest of your choreography was fine. Actually, it was brilliant. The part of your brain that tells you that you “failed” is lying. Maybe you just weren´t meant to be there, maybe this isn´t the right thing for you to do. Maybe you trained a little too hard, not listening to your body.
You didn´t fail, actually you gained something. You now know that you´ll give all your attention to your routine and back flip and totally forget the audience. You learned to listen to your body, to stop when what you´re doing is way to much. You will find your pace and keep practicing, then in half a year you´ll be ready to compete in a higher class, with a positive mind and 100% concentration. But for now, tell that voice inside your head to be quiet, or better forget all about it, because failure does not exist.
We´re here to learn, to make mistakes, to be better versions of ourselves everyday. We´re also here to learn that we will make mistakes, but that´s normal, as long as we learn from them. We´re here to live and love and not to stress ourselves or believe the voice inside our head which tells us we failed. Because failure does not exist. We always learn and gain a lot from experiencing things, we are always moving forward.