“Comparison is the thief of joy”
“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”
Todays task is writing a text which starts and incorporates quotes. I wanted to take this chance and talk to you guys about social media and the fuss about this young woman Essena O´Neil.
You may not or maybe you heard about this. It´s currently all over the internet. Essena O´Neil quitting her YouTube channel as well as her Instagram and all her social media sites. In that place she started a blog “Socialmediaisnotreal” about how people can be who they want to be or portrait who they want to portrait on Social Media. That almost all you see is fake and unreal. She started because she felt she was´t living the life she wanted. She felt she was portraying a fake image of herself on the internet. Now she wants to raise awareness.
I have to say, very brave of you Essena and thumbs up for you for doing this, because that has also been something on my mind recently. I´ve been thinking and experiencing a lot about it and related to it lately. Social pressure to look perfect. Teens having more anxiety than ever…
I totally agree that with all this photoshopping and reediting on social Media, the young generation, but also everybody else, is seeing this “perfect life”, these “perfect people” and wanting to be like them. Just like I quoted above “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It really is. Because instead of being happy with what we have and making the best out of everyday and everything, we look at these people and these photos and compare ourselves and our lives to that. We start to hate ourselves and wish we were someone else.
Now where is that getting us? Nowhere. Because we are all unique and everyone is great and beautiful in their own way. People aren´t the same and no one lives the same life and exactly that is the beauty of life.
“Be yourself, because everyone else is already taken”. That’s a great quote as well. You should shine and embrace who you are and not compare yourself to other people, because they´re always going to be different. But that´s not bad, that´s amazing. Look at what you can do, look at yourself in the mirror and see every little thing about yourself and start to love it. I´m not saying you will be able to love yourself in one minute, if that´s true for you, that´s great. But for those who´ve had problems, and I get you, it´s not going to be easy. Still, I want you to start that journey. Start giving yourself more attention, start liking who you are and start loving the little things that make your life great.
Forget about what everyone else thinks about you. Forget about the numbers in your Instagram feed. Forget about them. Forget about everything that makes you feel insecure.
Now start to connect with you. Start to live your life more consciously. Start being you.
This is what we need social media to display. Real human beings and self-love and acceptance.
There are two sides of everything. True. Social Media is everywhere. We are connected and logged in constantly. We can always see the perfect people on Instagram. On the other side with social media we can reach a lot of people to spread good messages. We can keep friendships, even though there are thousands of miles between us.
We always have to look at both sides to see the real thing or to make a proper opinion.
When you see a picture on Instagram, you only see the picture. What you don´t see is what the camera didn’t capture. That´s why I think Essena is doing something pretty good when she´s going through her pictures and rewriting the captures replacing them with what really was going on. That really opens the eye. You see all the glamour on one side and the other side you don´t see is the feeling of loneliness or pressure to get the “perfect” picture or be the “perfect” person.
Because you know what “Nobody´s perfect”. Everyone is perfectly imperfect in their own way.
I think this is a good start of Essena O´Neil. We can change something here, something what really needs to be changed.
I get that people want to look at something beautiful. Something “perfect”. I get that that´s fun or whatever. I myself like to look at beautiful things. I like to look at nature. Nature is what it is. It doesn´t lie and it doesn´t do it´s best to look a certain way. That´s what I love about it. It´s beautiful without trying.
It doesn´t need makeup to cover up and make it look perfect. Now don´t get me wrong. I´m not against makeup. I like to wear makeup from time to time and I don´t judge anyone who wears it all the time. If you like it, wear it. What I mean is that if we wear makeup to look a certain way or because we want to fit in…that´s what I think isn´t right. We should embrace our natural beauty. We should be who we are. Not who we´re not. We shouldn´t cover up and wear a mask and sell that mask.
Now, if you like wearing a dark lip and that´s you, then girl, do it. If you feel uncomfortable wearing makeup, but you do it to cover up the acne, stop. Please, you´re beautiful the way you are. Smile.
I know we all have those moments when we hate or dislike who we are. But let´s work together to make those moments as little as possible. Let´s stop comparing and start loving ourselves, because we´re worth it.
I came across a quote from Anna Kendrick recently and it really finishes this off well: ” Don´t worry (about your looks), everything´s photoshopped.”
Let´s be more human and less perfect.
What do you think?
I´d love to hear your opinions. Do you think Essena is doing the right thing?
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